Assertiveness Training Game from a Rogue Hypnotist

By Michael Twomey

This article is about how you can learn to be more assertive and to BE your BEST SELF !

Recently, I helped a client of mine to do something that was tremendously liberating for him and helped him to really make huge strides in their success.

I encouraged and assisted them in an exercise that I designed for several clients over the years. Originally this sprang from my own experience and I remember how incredible it felt to be able to be more assertive.

You will discover an incredibly effective way to transform yourself into a more assertive person without needing to become a jerk.

Let me walk you through this process the way I did for my very happy client so that when I share the step by step process with you it will be easier for you to apply.

It is best to consider this a therapeutic game that will help you to take things seriously without taking them too personally.

Imagine yourself walking, talking and doing what you need to in order to resolve things in an assertive way without resorting to yelling or screaming.

We did some Hypnosis to help him ease into doing what he needed to so you can get yourself relaxed and mentally rehearse how you will do this.

The idea is to remain calm and focused on the goal at hand, which is to get what is rightfully yours.

Long story short, he had purchased a DVD a week earlier and brought it home and it did not play correctly on his computer or his DVD player either.

So after finishing work that day he visited the store with his receipt to get his money back or to exchange the defective product for one that worked.

He told me that the clerks at the store looked at him suspiciously and were somewhat rude yet they agreed to exchange the defective DVD for another DVD of the same title.

They assured him that this copy would play and that they never had any problems or complaints. The thought that this was anything other than a defective DVD never crossed his mind until they made these comments the way they did.

He played this new DVD and once again it would not play in his computer or DVD player and now he was angry as well as dissappointed because he was taking it personally instead of seriously.

He called me the following day and told me how angry he was that they had ripped him off and then lied to his face so I calmed him down first and then I shared with him what I will be sharing with you in a moment.

So anyway, the other day he walked into this store where he had purchased the defective DVD and I walked in a minute later and stood to the side to lend moral support.

He walked calmly up to the counter the way he had done in his mental rehearsals and he spoke loudly and clearly and explained the situation.

First they tried to ignore him so he repeated himself.

To my surprise they actually attacked him verbally and accused him of just wanting to see another DVD for free. They insisted once again of exchanging his DVD for one of the same title.

His voice started to break the way it can when you are feeling stressed and nervous or angry. I coughed and he regained his composure. This was a signal we had worked on during our session earlier.

The coughing sound would break his present state of mind and remind him of his rights and to remain calm and imagine the final outcome going well. We had set this positive anchor to the sound of my coughing.

Then he repeated his request and explained again very clearly that this particular DVD did not play in his computer or DVD player and that this was already the second time they had given him a defective DVD.

He simply wanted to exchange the defective DVD for something from a more reputable company that he felt would play in his machine and he was willing to pay for a more expensive DVD or take a lesser priced one as long as it would play.

Now one of the clerks acted a bit nicer, while the other clerk got even more nasty and rude. Bad clerk, good clerk.

My client was able to hold on to the idea that he was the customer and he was within his rights and whatever misunderstandings would be resolved in his favor as long as he remained persistent.

After a few more attempts at getting him to just take another defective DVD or to just leave their store he finally got them to exchange the DVD for one that worked.

Do you want to know how? Great.

STEPS:

1. Mentally rehears the final outcome that you want. In this case getting a movie that plays on your DVD player. Of course you can use this exercise for any goal you have and I will write more articles about this in the future.

2. Remain calm and clearly state the situation and what you want that will resolve it.

3. * Use any and all leverage to achieve your goal, while remaining civil and calm and dignified.

4. Hold onto the feeling of your rights as a customer, person or employee and persist in asserting your rights. As I stated earlier you can use this training process for any goals that you have. There is a situation and a way to resolve it fairly and favorably.

5. Hold onto the image of the final outcome and feel that it has already happened and this ritual is simply a formality before you get what you want.

6. Treat this as a game. Instead of taking things personally, treat it as a serious game with points for remaining calm, persistant and dignified.

* For getting leverage as in step 3. you will need to consider what they fear most.

Mentioning Legal action from Police or Lawyers or other such comments simply made these clerks more angry and accusing.

However, the clerks noticed that while he was there talking with them that no one was buying anything at all. The other customers were either curiously listening and watching or they left because they did not like the way this store did Business.

So I text messaged my client with some tips for him that I had noticed from a more objective point of view.

He then told the store clerks that he had a very flexible schedule and that he lived nearby and could wait as long as it took for them to resolve things fairly they immediately agreed and he got another DVD. This DVD did play perfectly.

After he got his fair exchange he calmly thanked them for resolving the misunderstanding.

Oh, and this game had points attached and my client scored very well because he did remain calm, persistent and dignified and even thanked them for resolving things fairly.

Michael Twomey is a Professional Hypnotist and Success Coach in NYC. He has helped many people to change their habits, beliefs and improve their lives. He lives with his beautiful, loving and talented wife, Maggie in Brooklyn.

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